Witnessing the Rapid Change of a Species

Recently, while waiting on an airport lounge for my very delayed flight, I read on a psychology/fashion/beauty magazine an article about the way that men think. The article revealed the conclusions of a study conducted in the Netherlands about the effect that women have on the ability of men to think properly. The conclusions of the study were that in the presence of a female, a man will lose a significant part of his ability to reason adequately, even reaching the point of memory loss. The more physically attractive the woman is, the more the man’s brain will struggle to perform effectively.

In business, this means that if a man is having a business discussion with another man his brain will be properly engaged. If the same discussion, however, were to take place with a woman, the ability of the man to carry on with the same discussion will be seriously challenged. The study reveals that the reason for this behavior has to do with the unconscious and primitive constant search by men of mating opportunities. The female presence excites this instinctive behavior on the man.
For us women, things are differently. Only a moment earlier glancing through some other magazines, I came across the double page picture of Tom Ford advertising his latest fragrance. I know without a doubt that if Tom Ford were to be sitting before me, I surely would not be distracted by his incredible beauty, and I surely would be able to completely engage in a discussion with a beautiful and iconic man. In other words, the beauty of a man would not affect my ability to interact with him and certainly would never prevent me from conducting business with him.

So, is a male primitive instinct responsible for the huge imbalance that women are subjected to in the workplace?

Coincidentally enough, the study was carried out in the Netherlands, a Country where I worked and lived and where I recall the majority of the men asking me the eternal question of “why is an attractive woman like you, with such a dark and long hair, working in our office?” It seems to me that the question was not only sexist and completely inadequate but also reflected their total incapacity to converse intelligently with a woman. It explained also why many women in the workplace abandoned their natural womanliness choosing to look and behave like a man in order to be listened and taken into account.

What is the solution to this terrible dilemma?

It occurs to me that there are “evolved” men out there with new developed instincts, capable to recognize that the survival of the species has to do more with collaboration with the female species rather than the consumption of the female species. It also occurs to me that nature is rapidly creating a selection of “female hunters” responsible for empowering the female species, so we emancipate ourselves from the concept that we are the prey. Releasing our mind from this idea will help us understand that men have used their “male mating instinct” excuse in order to ignore our abilities and intelligence. By choosing not to be the prey, we are also able to once and for all shatter a terrible idea that has limited us from the days we lived trapped and isolated in dark caves.

We are witnessing the rapid change o a species. Women gatherers becoming women hunters; women who are reclaiming the power that men claimed entirely too much for themselves. It’s all about balance and equilibrium of the species. If we don’t let it happen, we may disappear all together trying to figure out how the instincts that we thought helped us evolve, led us to our ultimate destruction.

Oh, and about the long and dark hair issue. Perhaps most of those men fear in their nightmares the “hair monster” because I still cannot figure out what does long and dark hair has to do with it. My advice to women would be: instead of cutting your hair let him get therapy and figure out his nightmares.